Krysten, it sounds like you already know in your heart what´s happening. Of course, I don´t know your boyfriend, but it seems like he´s waving several red flags in your face.

Don´t be like me and foolishly give 10 years to a chef who may be doing a little more than cooking in the kitchen.

Thank you for the tip!

I am worried about my boyfriend who is an executive corporate chef at a high end hotel in our city, cheating with me with girls on his staff team. I was one of the wait staff members of a team and I was single. I know even the married chefs are sleeping with the hostesses and servers and everyone keeps it hush hush from their wives, or husbands. My boyfriend goes out at least once a week with his employees and it makes me so insecure that these things won’t ever change, and that maybe he is also getting sex on the side with some of the young girls he works with and I’m sure that look up to him. He has kinky tendencies that he has just brought to the table recently and I am feeling doubtful on his truthfulness that he doesn’t seek that from others and is just “trying everything” with me for the first time. He also pays close attention to the young girls who seat and serve us at dinner dates we go. When I try to talk to him about this he doesn’t say much and changes the subject. He also will not agree to an open phone policy amongst us, even thought I’ve expressed concern for his late night activity on his social media accounts, especially where he is friends with all of his young, female employees. I’m stressed, I never thought dating a chef would be so hard, but on top of it the once a week meetings and late night weekday dates just aren’t cutting it for me anymore.